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Make a difference in the world

by David Rawlings on 27 April, 2012

Storming the BastilleWhen I was a teenager I wanted to change the world.  The most I could do was to be involved in student politics and to join a few demonstrations.  This started at school and went on for my first 2 years at university, before being overshadowed by final exams and the need to get a job. [click to continue…]

7 limiting beliefs

by David Rawlings on 20 April, 2012

Beliefs can hold you backThe problem is usually … you!  Get out of your own way and anything’s possible.  But how do you do that?

The answer is probably deeper than a single post can deal with, and also personal to you.  But here’s a list of some of the most common barriers that we all put up to frustrate ourselves.  They are in the form of beliefs: the little sayings that run inside your head, almost below your awareness, and yet effectively keep you where you are.

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Overcoming your own beliefs

by David Rawlings March 30, 2012 Information

We all have ways of doing things that we’re comfortable with.  And there are many things that we don’t do because we believe we’ll do them badly, that we’ll fail or that we’ll be embarrassed.  The result of this is that we unwittingly construct a “realm of the possible” for ourselves: the set of events, [...]

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How to be good at anything

by David Rawlings February 13, 2012 Information

There’s a short story called “The Chessplayers”, by Charles Harness, in which a super-intelligent rat is taught to play chess.  His owner thinks the chess club could get a lot of publicity by organising a “simultaneous” tournament, so the rat could play a number of games at once, just like the Grand Masters do.  There’s [...]

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How to keep your New Year’s Resolutions

by David Rawlings January 20, 2012 Information

How are you getting on with your New Year’s Resolutions?  Did you make any?  Are they, like most people’s, comprised of things that you feel you “should” do rather than things that you wholeheartedly want?  After all, if you really wanted to do them then you probably would have by now. So, giving up smoking, cutting down [...]

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The art of procrastination (Part 3)

by David Rawlings December 16, 2011 Case Studies

 Albert E. N. Gray said that successful people have “formed the habit of doing things that failures don’t like to do.”  If you have a tendency to pick the enjoyable tasks off your to-do list then how do you rationalise those choices?  Here’s the last two of my excuses:  

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The art of procrastination (Part 2)

by David Rawlings December 7, 2011 Information

There are lots of ways we convince ourselves that we don’t really need to do the things we don’t like doing.  Here are some more:  I don’t feel like doing that now There is an argument for only

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The art of procrastination (Part 1)

by David Rawlings November 24, 2011 Information

It’s all about kidding yourself that you’re really doing important work – not just filling time to avoid doing what needs doing.  Here are a couple of excuses that I’ve caught myself using:

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Stress causes long-term sickness absence

by David Rawlings November 10, 2011 Case Studies

For the first time, stress is the most common cause of long-term sickness absence for both manual and non-manual employees.  This is the finding of this year’s Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (CIPD)/Simplyhealth Absence Management survey. 

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Moving on up

by David Rawlings October 27, 2011 Information

As dictatorships are overturned in North Africa and the Middle East and populations set about inventing new societies, I’ve found myself reflecting more and more on the principles of Spiral Dynamics.  This is a theory of human development introduced in the 1996 book Spiral Dynamics by Don Beck and Chris Cowan, based on the theory [...]

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